Sitting in deep leather chairs that seemed to swallow the occupants, the question was asked: ” Who uniquely encourages you?”
The silence was deafening. Slowly, as if from another life time, the leader said: “I am not sure there is anybody that uniquely encourages me.”
That seems to be the dilemma of the ‘corner office’ occupant. They are responsible for many….at home and at work, but no one seems to have the courage to care for them. Or if they have the courage, they do not think they have the ability. And in the vacuum the individual feels alone and often, quite isolated. But this isolation is not reserved for the corner office….it exists for all of us.
What does it take to permeate the cloud that speaks of loneliness? The first lesson is learned as we examine those who uniquely care for us & encourage us. What goes on that makes us feel uniquely important & valued in the eyes of another? I would suggest that how we engage speaks volumes. When a ‘true friend’ walks into the room their whole countenance seems to activate and to speak of the great pleasure they are experiencing as they encounter us. They are excited to see you, to see me!
They are genuinely interested in what you have been up to. How your life is going and what you have been doing that has put a smile on your face. They are interested in you!
They are not asking you about you so that they can tell you about themselves. It is ok, with them, if they never talk about themselves, because they are so interested in you. And they are not only interested in what you have been doing but they want to know about your heart. They want to know about your joy, your sorrow, your excitement, your frustration and everything in between. They understand that the events of life are one component of the story and they understand that how we feel about those events is the other key component!
It is in the knowing and being known that we experience true intimacy, great encouragement and significant caring!
There is another ingredient that they bring to the encounter. They bring a good memory. They seem to remember who I am and what my interests are. They remember what we talked about the last time we were together and they ask me how my world is going from the reference point of our last conversation. It is almost as if they had been praying for me. And if they say…..”you have been in my thoughts and prayers!” There is an authenticity to their words. Their memory and their words speak volumes. I am important enough for them to remember.
In the Gospel of John 4:7-21, we encounter a story of significant care and encouragement. Jesus meets a women in a life situation and cares for her and encourages her in ways that are transformational. We are called to care & encourage others in significant ways. Do not hold back!
Realize that you have little competition when it comes to being a care giver….therefore, excel in how you care & how you encourage!!
I believe the journey will transform you!
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