Are you an energy enhancer or are you an energy drainer? (I first wrote about this in my 3/17/13 blog. Since then, I have continued to wrestle with the concept.) Are people happy to see you coming or do they go out of their way to avoid you? The answers to those questions might reside in the critical question: what do you bring to the party?
I can clearly remember the first time I started to wrestle with the questions of energy enhancement.
I had just encountered a friend at the grocery store. It started as a classic encounter: ‘hi, how you doing’ ‘fine’, ‘how are you?’ ‘life sucks’ and a litany of grey sky perspective poured forth. It felt like I was encountering Eeyore from Winnie-the Pooh. The only difference, this Eeyore was in front of me and his personal gloom was on steroids. I came away from that encounter with a new commitment. From then on, I committed to seek out and engage energy enhancers. To this day, given a choice, I will always choose to be with those whose energy is contagious.
That raises the important question: what ingredients do all energy enhancers have in common?
I believe that there are three critical ingredients that a person must have if they are going to be an energy enhancer.
One: energy enhancers are comfortable in their own skin. They like themselves and they are be committed to being themselves. Liking yourself is not a narcissistic type of self absorption. It is a healthy self love/appreciation that develops out of true humility. This is a humility that is based upon who we are and it is girded with an understanding of who we are not. Therefore, it is an understanding that we are made in the image of God and we are very unique and special in His eyes. Understanding and appreciating that we are God’s unique creation will, hopefully, fuel our commitment to be 100% authentic. What you see is what you get. That sort of authentic humility is profoundly contagious and very empowering.
Second: energy enhancers are excited about their own personal mission and vision. People that have spent time wrestling with the big question of meaning and purpose, have (quite often) been drawn to the process of discovering why God has put them on the face of the earth and why they have been given the gifts that they have. This discovery of personal mission & gifting, provides a reason to get out of bed and it provides energy to focus the hours in the day. Focused, passionate intensity is the empowering gift that comes with knowing the reason for our being, why we are here and where we are going.
Third: energy enhancers choose to live in the present moment. The drain that comes from yesterday’s memories or the anticipation of tomorrow’s opportunities/challenges distracts us from being all here, right now. When we can be totally present to the present moment, then we can feel and appreciate all that is happening and we can engage with passion and intensity. Life is designed to be a contact sport that is lived most vibrantly in contact with the present moment.
Today’s question: are you an energy enhancer or an energy drainer? Are people excited to see you coming? What do you bring to the party? Are you bringing it, right now, with an attitude of joy & thankfulness!
May our lives, this day, be a hallelujah from head to toe!